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For some reason my background stopped working, even though it's the same one on the above blog, so to make things easier on myself I will just change my journal layout. I hope this didn't cause any issues for anyone trying to view my LJ earlier.

Day 5 Challenges

Day 5 – Is there a local Goth band or group in your area? (Goth)

I don't know anything about the local goth scene in a musical sense. I'm not even sure classic goth bands still exist here...? Scene and emo are the big things nowadays. I'm not even sure if "scene" is supposed to describe a specific music scene.

There is a huge goth meetup (from in Chicago, though. It's hosted by Scary Lady Sarah, who, from my perspective, has made quite a name for herself in the area and appears to be rather popular. She's also a DJ and runs a monthly event called Nocturna.

I'd like to join the meetup group, but they have pretty strict entrance rules, so I've been chicken and procrastinated...also, I think I'm still scarred from having to take an hour-long train ride down to Chicago almost every day for several years, and subconsciously try to avoid the trip as much as possible.

Day 5 – 10 items from your wishlist. (Lolita)

Hmm...this is either going to go very well, since I want to change my Lolita style, or very poorly, since I don't identify with it and don't give a crap as much.

1. A basic, black skirt. There is a specific one I want that was made by Meta years ago, but I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to track it down. The border has an eyelet pattern going around it so that it's not just a solid black skirt.

2. A brown or cream Classic blouse. about some items from my universal wishlist?

3. A VW armor ring.

4. A black, full-length mermaid skirt with ruffles in the back or on the sides.

5. A simple, semi-formal dress, preferably black, that I wouldn't be embarrassed to wear to a party. (Wearing "normal" clothes makes me feel embarrassed.) The dress I once wanted from Xylem Clothing doesn't exist anymore (I figured that would happen). It had sort of a sweet look to it.

Yeah, that's pretty much it. I don't really keep long wishlists. I just look for stuff I like while I'm shopping and actually planning on spending the money.

Day 4 Challenges

Day 4 – Name a stereotype or cliche you can relate to. (Goth)

The fact that pretty much every female goth I like (mostly musicians) has red hair?

I was originally just going to post a bunch of their photos and let you guess what the cliche was, but I'm only here waiting on a Starcraft II update that is halfway done.

I admit I haven't been keeping up with my 'do, but...I have my reasons. It is a legitimate reason this time, not laziness or apathy.

Day 4 – 10 different kinds of food you like. (Lolita)

1. Gyros
2. Chicago-style hot dogs
3. Soggy Italian beef sandwiches (also Chicago style I guess?)
4. Burgers
5. Curry rice
6. Sushi
7. Shrimp Tempura
8. French fries
9. Strawberries
10. Lou Malnati's spinach pizza (sorry, I was at a major loss and this was my dinner tonight)

So except for strawberries, I pretty much fail as a Lolita. On the plus side, I bet you'll never guess where I live!

Aaaannnd Starcraft II (I almost typed "Strawcraft") has scared the living daylights out of me in order to let me know it is finished updating.

Until next time...

Day 3 Goth/Loli

I'm going to chicken out an not post any bad photos after all. Sorry to disappoint :D

Day 3 – When did you come out the Goth closet? (If you didn't then simply discuss the topic)
Closets and I are weird. I don't really have any closets, but I'm not that open about my differences either. I just don't deny them if they happen to pop up.

I've tried to keep things about myself secret, but that tends to backfire pretty hardcore. It ends up being something I'm ashamed of. When people talk about "such-and-such Pride!" they're not trying to shove it in your face, or sound superior, or whatever it is people think about Pride movements. They are choosing to be open about themselves, which promotes pride and a sense of self-acceptance, rather than carefully hide themselves, which promotes shame and fear of judgment from others.

I've only recently started to get into goth, and I think I'm too old to go over-the-top on a daily basis anyway, so I don't know if anybody has really noticed. My friends know what kind of things I like and what I'm into at any given moment, and I think my family just thinks I'm strange.

Day 3 – 10 things you hate in lolita.

1. People who don't dress Lolita going around and telling others what Lolita is all about, and worse, criticizing others' Lolita outfits. I don't care what your reasoning is for not dressing up or how many years you've "studied" Lolita, you don't get to tell somebody how to be "more Lolita" without ever having experienced the art of coordinating your own outfit. It's different if they ask for your opinion and you offer it humbly.

2. Cliquism. I am sad to say I was guilty of this once. You don't know how heavily the Lolita community relies on cliques until you aren't in them anymore. You can be a kind and accepting person, and still be part of a clique. Tell me you aren't just a little wary of people who you don't recognize, but who try to pass themselves off as knowledgeable Lolitas?

3. Certain Sweet Lolita aesthetics that were inspired by Angelic Pretty...the OTT, super-saturated colors with prints and accessories made with sweets. I don't care if you like it and want to wear it, it just makes me a little ill.

4. People who wear Lolita that isn't suited to their body type or personality. Just because you put the perfect outfit together doesn't mean it looks good on you...

5. The fact that my favorite brands have never offered overseas shipping! UGHGHGH.

6. When people say that Lolita is ONLY a fashion. If it were only fashion, people would not identify as "Lolita", and we wouldn't ask people what Lolita means to them. Maybe the people who say this are just trying to counter the people who ask whether their toothbrush is Lolita enough. I still don't think it's good to speak in extremes like that.

7. The absence of Aristocrat and male styles in the modern-day community... A long time ago, I felt like all of the styles were fairly well-represented, with a dominance of Lolita styles. Nowadays, there are very few people who not only dress in these styles, but wear them well. Even though Lolitas have always accepted me as an Aristocrat as part of their community, it's still intimidating to be the only person who is different. A freak among freaks, if you will.

8. I don't know if this still happens, but I really dislike the way males used to be treated in the Lolita community. Lolitas used to ask their boyfriends to dress up in some kind of Dandy or pseudo-Ouji style while they wore Lolita, and essentially treated them as accessories...that was the actual phrase used at the time. On top of that, at several meetups, some mildly sexist comments were made, like "You have to hold the door for the ladies!" or "Don't worry, the men can do the dirty work!" "The men will protect us!" etc. I felt like "the men" didn't appreciate the comments.

I've run out of things to hate, so here are a few more things I LOVE about Lolita :D

1. I love it when somebody not only takes the time to coordinate a cute outfit, but also practices how to act and speak while dressed that way. I think it takes a lot of dedication and skill...and I know it's not easy, because I suck at acting.

I know you don't have to do this to be a Lolita, and some people are even offended by it, but I think it's the sweetest thing ever! It's such a pleasure to meet such a person as long as they seem genuinely kind. Please, if you enjoy doing this, don't ever let someone tell you to stop.

2. I love hearing about how Lolita gives individuals a sense of confidence and wholeness. I think it's such a beautiful phenomenon, and it makes me happy to know that something I love allows people to find themselves and live a confident life. These are the people who make Lolita wonderful and fun for everyone else.

Day 2 Goth/Loli Challenges

Day 2 – Share photos and experiences from your Baby Bat days.
lol! I don't think I have Baby Bat days, do I? I explained last time that I only had a mild interest in goth as a youngster, so I never really got dressed up.

On top of that, I have some kind of curse that makes nobody want to take photos of me AND/OR makes all of the people who took my photo forget to give them to me. Recently I've been asking my husband to take photos of all my outfits, but of course I forgot to ask him to take my photo the first time we went to Darkwave Night last month.

Well, I CAN share some of my experiences. Like when I was in middle school, how I was dying to, er, dye my bangs neon green. Should I be grateful I never actually did this? I mean it's not like I had the clothes to

And what happened, how did my hair preference go from neon green to blood red?

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OOH OOH WAIT...I do have a few photos from my bad newbie gosurori days, does that count? I'll make a new post and call it Day 2 Part 2.

Day 2 – 10 things you love in lolita.

1. I was born to be a tea fiend. Lolita allows me to express my love of tea through tea parties! Who else do you know besides Lolitas who have tea parties? Besides Republicans I mean...those don't count.

2. Gothic Lolita mixes my two favorite aesthetics, dark and cute. I knew I'd found home when I discovered Gothic Lolita.

3. Lolita allows me to express a type of femininity that differs from both the mainstream, and from the type of woman that certain kinds of feminists seem to want me to be. It allows me to be with other women whom I can relate to.

4. Ouji allows me to express a kind of quasi-masculinity and has opened me up to appreciate the world of men's fashion and Dandyism.

5. It embraces a type of modesty that blends well with my personal style. I used to wear pants or shorts underneath my skirts, so hello bloomers! It's not so much the modesty as much as my opinion that flashing your underwear or certain body parts to everyone by accident is really tacky. It's different if it's intentional and part of the fashion statement, but I don't dress that way.

6. Most real-life Lolitas I've met are very open-minded people from all walks of life who accept alternative lifestyles from others. It's true that there are some rigid, dogmatic people, and some snobs and drama-mongers, but most of the people who love Lolita to death and wear it as often as possible are very easy-going and accepting of others. I'm happy to be part of a community like that!

7. It's so versatile. Once you've mastered the rules, you can bend them slightly to create new and unique forms of Lolita! I've seen people do Hobo Loli, Communist Loli, and all sorts of interesting themes. It might not seem this way to newer people, who probably hear left and right about following the rules and fitting into substyles, but you can totally personalize Lolita into your own unique style with some effort and creativity.

8. Coordinating an outfit is a pleasant challenge. Well, it's pleasant when I have all the parts I's much easier for me to create an Aristocrat outfit than a Lolita one because I've invested much more time and money in the former and not the latter. Even when I don't own everything I want, though, it's fun to go window shopping via the internet and put outfits together in my head!

9. The people who manage to follow through with Lolita over the course of time aren't easily hurt or upset. I admire that. I think it's because you have to put up with so much drama from the more insecure Lolitas, and you get used to that as well as the rude comments people give you about your fashion sense. I've watched some pretty epic drama break out in other communities over relatively petty circumstances that would never have fazed Lolitas.

10. I've tried to give up Lolita for good many times, but always come back. There is just something about it that speaks to the deepest part of my soul, as though it's my home and I belong here no matter what changes and no matter what drama ensues.

Goth and Lolita Blog Challenges / Day 1

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I found the Goth Challenge first and since I'm still not fully immersed in goth subculture, I thought it would be very fitting of me to do a Lolita Challenge. I'm glad I found one! Otherwise, I was going to modify the Goth Challenge.

If you know of another 30 day Lolita challenge, that would be cool if you let me know. I think these things are fun.

So I'll go through them side by side, what do you think? Here's day 1...

Day 1 – How did you come across the subculture?
I...don't even remember. For the longest time in my teen and young adult years, people would ask me if I was goth, and so many people asked that I started to assume I was one after all. I didn't realize it was an entire subculture for awhile, though. At first, I just thought it was an identity expressed through fashion. When I started to do internet research and found out it was a subculture, I stopped agreeing with people that I was goth, because I didn't associate with or even know any other goths. I didn't want to identify myself as something that I felt so far removed from and knew so little about.

I also didn't like the music whenever it was that I tried out some old New Wave/trad Goth tracks. Since elitist goths were all going, "It doesn't matter what you wear, it's about liking Goth music," I figured it would be a lie to call myself a goth, even though I admired certain parts of the subculture and enjoyed dark things. This was before I knew about any other types of music associated with the goth scene. I was still listening to Visual kei.

Shortly after all this, I discovered Lolita and fully identified as that. I even stopped hanging out with Jrock fans to be with Lolitas.

Day 1 – 10 things about your lolita bubble.
This is like my own little Lolita world, right? Hmm...can I skip this question? I mean, the whole point of giving up Lolita for over a year was to get me OUT of my Lolita bubble and wake up to real life.

My Lolita always revolved around the local Lolita community. I started out going to every single meetup, but stopped going when the meetups got expensive, and never managed to pick up my same old pace again as the community grew and more meetups were being held. When the meetups started happening less frequently, I was struck by some curse that made shit pop up on days meetups were held, which was frustrating to say the least.

So I guess I don't have 10 things and will just stop talking now. Otherwise I'll ramble on and on. I don't want to live in a Lolita bubble anymore. I want to live in a Roku bubble with a little Lolita on the side.

My Favorite Brand

Today's answer for Loliprompts:
What is your favorite brand, and why? It can be any Gothic & Lolita brand, and it doesn’t have to be Japanese. If possible, please teach us about the origins as well, and include any other trivia you like!

My absolute favorite brand, since about 2005, is Atelier Boz. Let's go over the pronunciation first, because I have too much to say about that. In English, you could roughly pronounce it AH-telly-ay BOWS. "Atelier" is French for "studio," as in a design studio, and Boz was a childhood nickname of Charles Dickens.
Dickens apparently adopted it from the nickname Moses which he had given to his youngest brother Augustus Dickens, after a character in Oliver Goldsmith's The Vicar of Wakefield. When pronounced by anyone with a headcold, 'Moses' became 'Boses', and was later shortened to Boz.

Thank you Wikipedia
I'm not sure that this is exactly where they got their name, but it seems to go with the theme of Victorian England, doesn't it? Well, in my head, that's where it came from until they tell me otherwise.

In Japanese, it's spelled アトリエボズ or ATORIE BOZU. I guess if you listen to the French pronunciation on Google translate, the middle vowel does sound pretty "uh" or "oh" -like.

Ok, I'm done being a word nerd now! I am satisfied.

I love the Aristocratic Gothic look that Boz tends to create. I love how their flowy garments (such as skirts and dresses) are often heavily layered, asymmetrical, and/or cut in pointed shapes rather than round shapes in order to give it that edgy/spikey look when the fabric drapes down. If I could ever afford it, 90% of my wardrobe would consist of nothing but Boz.

I also extremely appreciate how they have a men's line, and how a lot of their men's clothes are unisex. Dresses for men? Like, masculine and elegant dresses for male bodies? Yes thank you please. My husband also loves Boz, which is fantastic, because it means we can potentially twin one day.

One of my pet peeves is that a lot of people confuse Atelier Boz with Atelier Pierrot. The second label does not exist anywhere on Boz's site, and I don't recall seeing them combined on any other official site, so I am 99% positive that they have absolutely nothing to do with each other. As I mentioned earlier, "atelier" simply means "studio."

Intro to Lolita

I have no idea if this is going to last, or if it's going to be another one of those short-lived whims I have. So I'm going to try this out for a month or so, ok?

I'm going to start using this journal to fill prompts from Loliprompts, which is maintained by me. The most recent entry is a hiatus announcement, since I gave up for Lolita for (by this time) a little over a year. Whether or not I keep adding prompts depends on how my re-entry into Lolita goes.

So today's prompt, and an ideal first entry, is this:

How would you describe Lolita fashion to a curious person you met in passing, whether online or on the street? Suppose they have little to no knowledge of Japanese culture or any alternative fashions, but are interested in hearing what you have to say.

It's very difficult for me to tell somebody who has no prior knowledge of Japanese fashion what it's like to wear or be a Lolita. It's so unique from any other fashion or subculture, and I hate having to rely on Lolita stereotypes in order to give them a quick feel for the fashion. On occasions, I have suggested that it's sort of like goth or punk in that it's an alternative style with a bit of a subculture surrounding it, but Lolita is very much its own thing separate from either of those two, and I'm worried that people will equate it with a subtype of goth or punk instead. In addition, most people don't even know what "goth" is besides some attention-seeking fashion statement from high school.

Most of the time, I'll say that it's Victorian- or vintage-inspired since those things are currently popular and most people know what they look like, but that's not entirely accurate either, since some types of Lolita take inspiration from earlier time periods.

If somebody stopped me in the street and actually wanted to hear what Lolita was about, in full detail, I would probably have to invite them over for tea because I would not be able to express my thoughts briefly enough.

When I was a Lolita and went to meetups, this scenario (strangers wondering what Lolita was) actually popped up often enough that I feel like I should have a canned response if I want to get back into Lolita again. Oh well. Maybe I'll elaborate at a later date.

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I think I'm going to revive this journal for Lolita usage. Is anyone still reading?

I was almost going to make a new one, and then I remembered I started off my Lolita interest with this one anyway. It's pretty nostalgic. It's been 11 years since I got this...


I'm going to pay for a name change, though, so that people stop making fun of my high school LJ name. Even if I had made a new journal, I would have wanted to change the name to something people will recognize me by.
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